The Relationship Formula


I am not much of talker about relationships, and emotions and things (pfft who am I kidding), but I realized it is a little bit like a formula.

We all have different relationships that we balance on a day to day life, and all of those relationships require so much of sacrifice, effort and patience to make happen. And one day we all wake up and think “to hell with it, I am done trying”. But is that really the way to decide on giving up on a relationship?

We as humans require to meet a constant need of belonging. But at some point you need to draw the line and recognize what relationships weigh you down, and what relationships build you up. You only have one life to live, and it shouldn't be wasted on things that do not help you grow as a person.

So here is my formula that has helped me.

The Return of a Relationship – The Effort it Requires + Your Satisfaction = Contribution to Self Growth (positive or negative)

But this process also requires a tiny bit of that little feeling that comes from the gut. Sometimes to understand your true satisfaction you need to listen to that inner voice.

However the formula may seem a little selfish but I have learnt that if you cannot help yourself first, you cannot help others.

Someone at work had seen on a website the quote below:
Life is like a toilet paper; either you are on a roll, or you are taking shit off an ass hole.

Above formula will help you decide either the shit or the ass hole is worth the wipe.



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