Journey by Sachie Tennakoon

I am not much of talker about relationships, and emotions and things (pfft who am I kidding), but I realized it is a little bit like a formula. We all have different relationships that we balance on a day to day life, and all of those relationships require so much of sacrifice, effort and patience to make happen. And one day we all wake up and think “to hell with it, I am done trying”. But is that really the way to decide on giving up on a relationship? We as humans require to meet a constant need of belonging. But at some point you need to draw the line and recognize what relationships weigh you down, and what relationships build you up. You only have one life to live, and it shouldn't be wasted on things that do not help you grow as a person. So here is my formula that has helped me. The Return of a Relationship – The Effort it Requires + Your Satisfaction = Contribution to Self Growth (positive or negative) But this process also requires a tiny bit of...

As I approach closer and closer to that one mile stone, that one point in your life, you are still not sure of being a kid or an adult, that point in life you want to take charge of your future and decisions, but the pocket seems to be a little bit empty for that, that point in life you realize the change in your parents faces to see the wrinkles coming in (my mother will not be happy with that statement though), you suddenly realize “holy mother of jack fruit!.. I am growing old” Its not easy accepting that now every relationship you have you first need to think about if this person is a suitable life partner (seriously) and that you can raise kids with, and that you can’t eat everything you want without actually putting on a few pounds, or that you really can’t live without a job just on your parents money, or that every time you go to a relative’s house the first topic of discussion is marriage. You realize this and it kind of sucks. It liked my life before with fewer...

The realities of our lives consist of the different personalities that we may portrait day to day. As a mother, a wife, a daughter, an employee, a sibling and friend the list may continue. The responsibilities, the commitments, the emotions are all different according to these relationships. We live lives of so many different characters where sometimes we forget how to interconnect all of it. Or rather that we should interconnect them at all. We may come across those situations of truly embedding ourselves in to the characters that involve people or relationships that won’t work with another. We find different levels of comfort and peace in each of them, but find it difficult to intertwine them to work together. All most all of us may have that so called dirty little secret, that one person, one relationship, one true connection that others in our lives may not know about or we assume that may not be understood by others in our lives. We find pleasure in that relationship bu...

So many people think that living life on an island is so easy. The sun and the sand, and the crystal blue waters seem more than ok enough. The beautiful views, the landscape and even the good food seem heavenly. But is it really? As a born and bred in an island let me tell you, it is NOT. Here are the reasons why EVERYONE is related to you- someone you meet at the meat section at a grocery shop happens to talk to you, and she is your grandmother’s auntie’s sister’s cousin’s daughter. Seriously. There isn’t really room for a getaway: you could be in the most far off part of the island in a abandoned wilderness with wild elephants, you will definitely run it to a friend of your parents.   If you are single and is in the age of being hunted as marriage material- EVERYONE THAT MOVES FROM THE OPPOSITE SEX IS A MARRIAGE PROPOSAL You break up, hook up, get divorced, get married, has a child, gets in to a car accident- EVERYONE KNOWS within seconds, to the point you w...

Ya- are you wondering where this title will take you? No don’t worry I promise you this will not be one of those bitching moments, but rather one of those “light bulb” moments. And that line is just so appropriate on many day to day activities.  I have been slacking off recently on this blog ( I know my famous excuse) but honestly my life hasn't been that interesting. I moved back home, found a fantastic job- met so many new people, had to leave the job – found another fantastic job and is now riding that boat. Yea as much as this may sound like a fairy tale it really wasn't. It was like a mud run in a rain forest during the rainy season- except its not mud- but like poop.  Yea smelly actually. But a friend once said “always find that silver lining”. Well I think I found mine. People come in and out of your life for various reasons, some go and some stay, some go only to come back. But you find that one person, that one per...